Lauren Fogel Mersy

After 8 Years, How to Be Like Water, and Our Body’s Love Language


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I hope the next 20’ish breaths are the most nourishing of your day.



4 THOUGHTS

1. That’s It

“If we only practice when all the outer conditions seem nice but not when people are noisy, or when there are problems, or when we are feeling ill, or something adverse comes up, then we don’t know how to practice. We have to learn how to use our life—everything in our life—as our practice. That’s it.”

– Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo, The Heroic Heart

Yep, that truly is it 👏

2. “I’ve Been Helping the Wheat Grow”

“Once upon a time in China, there was a farming family, and they were having dinner. The oldest son came in late, and they asked him, ‘Why are you late for dinner?

Oh,’ he said, ‘I’ve been helping the wheat to grow.

They came out the next morning and all the wheat was dead. It turned out that the son had pulled each stalk up a little bit, to help it grow.”

– Alan Watts, Still the Mind

Here is a little humor wrapped around a powerful message. As Watts puts it, “The point is that growth always occurs in a being as it does in a plant, and it is perfect at every step.” 👏

3. After 8 Years, Bruce Lee, & Gravity for Your Practice

1. After 8 years of practice, I’ve never been able to watch my breath without changing it. That’s the point. That is the lesson.

2. Laughter is like the Bruce Lee “be like water” of breathing exercises: it flows effortlessly, forms to any situation, and, given enough time, will erode any obstacle in its path.

3. Intention is gravity for your practice.

4. Wholeness and Holiness

“Psychological wholeness and spiritual holiness never exclude the problem from the solution. If it is wholeness, then it is always paradoxical, and holds both the dark and light sides of things.

– Richard Rohr, Falling Upward

We must accept all of ourselves—even the parts we dislike and want to change—if we are to truly experience wholeness 🙏


1 Quote

Deep breathing is our nervous system’s love language.”
— Lauren Fogel Mersy, PsyD

1 Answer

Category: Tidal Volume

Answer: This type of breathing, often used in singing, aims to keep your ribs expanded while slowing the ascent of the diaphragm to elongate the breath cycle.

(Cue the Jeopardy! music.)

Question: What is appoggio breathing?


In good breath,

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